Why Some Young People Fear Social Isolation More Than COVID-19

Jul 4, 2020
Originally published on July 9, 2020 7:02 pm

Audrey just turned 18 and relishes crossing into adulthood: She voted for the first time this year, graduated high school and is college-bound next month. The honors student typically wakes up "a bundle of nerves," she says, which had fueled her work volunteering, playing varsity sports and leading student government.

But for years, she also struggled with anxiety, depression and obsessive compulsive disorder — all of which drove her to work harder.

"I was spending so much time on my homework, I felt like I was losing my friends — so my thoughts would race over and over again about my friends," says Audrey. "And then I would have the difficult thoughts about suicide and some scarier stuff." (NPR agreed to use only her first name to protect her medical privacy.)

Audrey's psychological struggles landed her in mental health treatment last fall. There, she says, the coping skills she learned gave her perspective on quarantine: "I know all about how seeing friends and seeing people outside — and social interaction — is vital for survival."

There is a simmering tension between young people's desire to gather socially, and the growing threat from the coronavirus in the United States. The virus is now infecting more people in their teens and 20s than it had earlier in the pandemic, and that's contributing to outbreaks, especially in states in the South and West. As a result, public health officials are imploring young adults to limit social contact and take precautions to help protect their more vulnerable elders. But many young people see continued social isolation as a much greater risk than COVID-19 to their own mental health.

It's not that Audrey isn't worried about the pandemic; in fact, confirmed cases of the coronavirus are spiking in her hometown of Charlotte, N.C. So Audrey wears masks, washes her hands and stays 6 feet from friends. But for her generation, she says, infection isn't the primary threat.

"A lot of people are calling attention to coronavirus because it's right in front of us," she says. "But at the same time, teens' depression rate — it's a silent threat."

The health risks of infection differ by generation. For many young adults, life lived at a social distance, with a lack of peer support, comes at a high cost to mental health. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says nearly half of people between 18 and 29 report feeling symptoms of anxiety or depression. That's significantly higher that the rate for both their parents and their grandparents. Suicide is the second leading cause of death for people under 35.

Yet somehow, says Audrey, that's not talked about as much.

"We haven't seen the government or adults as passionate about the things we really care about, like mental health and climate issues," she says.

It might be tempting to think that FaceTime and Zoom provide substitutes for in-person social outlets, especially for a generation of digital natives who grew up with smartphones. But, therapists say, talking by small screen offers no replacement for a calming hug and can miss the subtleties of a compassionate expression.

Audrey's complaint is a common refrain among the adolescent and young adult patients whom Dr. Lisa Jacobs counsels. It is not that they aren't concerned about the risks of COVID-19, Jacobs says; it's just that their risk calculations differ.

"They are appropriately realizing that isolation is a risk for them as well — it's a risk factor for depression, and depression is a risk factor for suicide," Jacobs says. "And 8% of American teens attempt suicide each year."

Jacobs, a psychiatrist in Menlo Park, Calif., says many of her young patients complain older generations failed to address the young people's fears — of school shootings and climate change, for example.

"After not being protected, after not being taken seriously, they were asked to take extreme measures to protect other groups and to put themselves at risk by doing so," Jacobs says.

There is a biological basis for young people's need for socialization. Scientists say bonding isn't a luxury; it's critical for development.

Young brains need social connection to feel secure about their identity and place in the world, says Gregory Lewis, who studies the neurobiology of social interaction at Indiana University.

"We expect as a human being to have other people there to share the stressful times and to be our backup, and when they're not there physically, that in of itself tells our nervous system 'you're in a dangerous environment because you don't have these people here,' " he says.

That is less of an issue among older adults, Lewis says, who have had more time to develop their social networks — both at work and around their community — and more time to find partners who can help ground them emotionally. By contrast, he says, "younger people are missing a larger percentage of what previously was there to buffer them."

So the societal challenge, he says, is to find ways to help community members of all ages balance the risks of infection against the need to foster those essential social bonds.

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COVID-19 is infecting more and more people in their teens and 20s. That's contributing to recent outbreaks, especially in the South and West. Public health officials are imploring young adults to limit social contact to help protect their more vulnerable elders, but many younger people see isolation as a much greater risk to their own mental health, as NPR's Yuki Noguchi reports.

YUKI NOGUCHI, BYLINE: Audrey just turned 18 and achieved a lot already. She's a college-bound student athlete who volunteered and worked in student government in high school. But for years, she struggled with anxiety, depression and obsessive compulsive disorder, all of which drove her to work harder.

AUDREY: I was spending so much time on my homework, I felt like I was losing my friends. So my thoughts would race over and over again about my friends, and then I would have the difficult thoughts about suicide and some scarier stuff.

NOGUCHI: That landed Audrey - who withheld her name for medical privacy - in treatment last fall. She says the coping skills she learned gave her perspective on quarantine.

AUDREY: I know all about how seeing friends and seeing people outside in social interaction is vital for survival.

NOGUCHI: It's not that she isn't worried about COVID-19. In fact, cases are spiking in her hometown of Charlotte, N.C. So Audrey wears masks and stays 6 feet from friends. But for her generation, she says, infection isn't the primary threat.

AUDREY: A lot of people are calling attention to coronavirus because it's right in front of us, but at the same time, teens depression's rate - it's a silent threat.

NOGUCHI: The risks of infection differ by generation. For many young adults, life at a social distance without peer support comes at a high cost to mental health. The Centers for Disease Control and Prevention says nearly half of people between 18 and 29 report feeling symptoms of anxiety or depression. That's twice the rate of their parents and three times higher than their grandparents. Suicide is the second-leading cause of death for people under 35. Yet somehow, says Audrey, that's not talked about.

AUDREY: We haven't seen the government or we haven't seen adults as passionate about the things that we really care about, like mental health and climate issues.

NOGUCHI: Menlo Park, Calif., psychologist Lisa Jacobs counsels mostly adolescents and young adults. She says their risk calculations differ.

LISA JACOBS: They are appropriately realizing that isolation is a risk for them, as well. It's a risk factor for depression, and depression is a risk factor for suicide. And 8% of American teens attempt suicide each year.

NOGUCHI: Jacobs says many patients complain older generations fail to address their fears of school shootings and climate change.

JACOBS: After not being protected, after not being taken seriously, they were asked to take extreme measures to protect other groups and to put themselves at risk by doing so.

NOGUCHI: Scientists say socialization isn't a luxury for the young. It's critical for development. Gregory Lewis studies social interaction at Indiana University. He says young brains need social connection to feel secure.

GREGORY LEWIS: We expect, as a human being, to have other people there to share the stressful times and to be our backup. And when they're not there physically, that in and of itself tells our nervous system, you're in a dangerous environment because you don't have these people here.

NOGUCHI: Even for digital natives who grew up with smartphones, talking by small screen offers no replacement for a calming hug. Older adults, he says, had more time to develop their social networks and find partners.

LEWIS: Younger people are missing a larger percentage of what previously was there to buffer them.

NOGUCHI: So the societal challenge, he says, is finding ways to balance risks of infection against the need to foster those essential social bonds. Yuki Noguchi, NPR News.

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